Gabor Mate talks about incongruency in childhood as one of the forms of CPTSD—a child feeling something is going on but the parent’s emotional display doesn’t match. Often the child will conclude that “what’s wrong” must be themselves. It seems like alcohol is a facilitator of this incongruency, always masking emotional truth and depriving a child the skills or even tolerance for navigating these truths.
Thanks, Kimberly. "What's wrong" is definitely an issue of these children who continue to seek the attention of their parents or others. A lack of confidence caused panic attacks for me in college. For COA, skills are focused on survival with little time to learn the skills of navigating truths or any emotional connection. Thanks for always reading:)
Another powerful message. "Why not consider a warning label on alcoholic beverages that lists the risks to children from parents who consume alcohol?" (from this article)
Thanks, Julie. I believe the current label doesn't say enough. For example, we could take up most of the bottle outlining the dangers of excessive consumption. The current label addresses fetal alcohol syndrome and driving impaired. We need to expand it to include a heightened risk of cancer and the damage to friendships, your employment and your family plus the financial impact of reckless spending due to an addiction. The danger I'd like to see included is: Drinking alcohol may damage the emotional, physical and mental health of your children. I wonder if it would have an impact.
“But does numbing feelings help children?” THIS!!
Gabor Mate talks about incongruency in childhood as one of the forms of CPTSD—a child feeling something is going on but the parent’s emotional display doesn’t match. Often the child will conclude that “what’s wrong” must be themselves. It seems like alcohol is a facilitator of this incongruency, always masking emotional truth and depriving a child the skills or even tolerance for navigating these truths.
Thanks, Kimberly. "What's wrong" is definitely an issue of these children who continue to seek the attention of their parents or others. A lack of confidence caused panic attacks for me in college. For COA, skills are focused on survival with little time to learn the skills of navigating truths or any emotional connection. Thanks for always reading:)
Another powerful message. "Why not consider a warning label on alcoholic beverages that lists the risks to children from parents who consume alcohol?" (from this article)
Thanks, Julie. I believe the current label doesn't say enough. For example, we could take up most of the bottle outlining the dangers of excessive consumption. The current label addresses fetal alcohol syndrome and driving impaired. We need to expand it to include a heightened risk of cancer and the damage to friendships, your employment and your family plus the financial impact of reckless spending due to an addiction. The danger I'd like to see included is: Drinking alcohol may damage the emotional, physical and mental health of your children. I wonder if it would have an impact.